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knowing I reviewed a lot of topics similar and dissimilar and benefited them, but I did not get the answer.
Husband ---------------------------------------- wifeAbu Hani / 50 autumn / employee --------------------- Umm Hani / 42 / physicianNervous, lazy, average religiosity ------------- aggressive, masculine, arguing, malicious JaddawanthazahCream. Loved to help people, kind-hearted, cultured ------ decent, fun, love to help people, average commitmentOf educated religious family known --------------- from a low level of morality, science and religionHealth status: good -------------------------- health status: goodSocial Status: to --------------------------- good physical condition: excellentMental state: chronic depression Average ----------- mental state: a severe personality disorder
God
forbid me to يبتليني this woman for 5 years I would characterize as
good to some extent, and Onjibna which 3 Flowers, age now daughter 14
and neonatal 11 and 9, and then what to broadcast that got us otherwise
because of differences accumulated, you which beat her after Astnvave
with every means by which unthinkable any reformer ...She
left home, and the intervention of good people to reconcile to no
avail, and joined her parents in abuse my ugliest person might be
imagined (and there are so many details). ,
And after 3 years of Albhdlh and misery in police stations and courts,
Judge wisdom Balnchoz, and soon that replaced him in divorce, and
finished instrument that regulates the relationship between us and the
dish on the ground for a period of two years. But
returned again to overturn the instrument in the court, and fabricating
problems, and محاربتي various means and tarnish my reputation and even
do assaulted in a public place, and then harnessing Allowastat interest
in collusion with some of the officers and the exploitation of their
relevance as a physician. And
of course the other hand I do not pretend that I angel but issued me
the words and actions of non-decent, but it was always within the limits
of self-defense. And
problems still exist even now, despite the passage of more than seven
years, and despite her marriage to another victim, and marrying a woman
gave birth to them Bmolodyn.
For children:The
origin and the natural instinct of the strong boys love me, how many
times were tears in their eyes when أرجعهم to their mother's house. Where
I was trying hard not to mention bad, and provide a decent life for
them and good upbringing Islamic education, and taking into account
their mental state.But
that did not live up to Tliqta, so she and the participation of its
people in a systematic manner and malignant cut Salta and upbringing of
their on Akouka and as follows:- Inform them of the details of the conduct of the case!!!- Picture distortion have and نعتي ugliest qualities and traits.- Play the role of victim that protect her children from the father predator.- Dumped by all means play, entertainment and computer games (which you know harm) very, very exaggerated. Mm made me Otaftr Alma and I, sitting in front of the television for long hours.- Not her children's state of health care, where children suffer from wasting and clear.-
Not originally dedication to farming because preoccupation with work as
an employee and do the burdens of her husband, and assigning things to
the entry of education.- Beating the boys sometimes and Tanifam when يذكروني then.- Registration of children in public schools against my desire to enroll them in private schools.-
Carried out during the course of the case Bmenai see the boys for four
months, then the Bmenai see the boys for a whole year, and now I have
not seen my children for over a year!!
Alsldh esteemed advisers: "the free world to the distemper to see an enemy of his friendship must"1 - What's going on?! I ask this question and I'm very misery and unhappiness. By
analytical what is happening is one of the reasons that paid for this
is first remorse extreme where "every absolute regret", secondly
personality complex, thirdly not my spend on children - unlike my desire
completely - and so persistently and desiring, Fourth outlook
inferiority me, and so in Tnnchr country disguised racism - where we hold the same nationality but of different origin -.2
- despite my culture religious that says "and introduce remembrance
..." and "God, if I like a slave ابتلاه," but I am in a state of
paralysis mental and physical not stronger when the follow-up prayer and
fasting ... despite my attempts sincere and repeated, and thus became
the calamity in my religion now, what am doing?3
- The big question now is - In light of what I mentioned earlier -: Do
you think that the interest of the children be kept with their mother,
or living with me - a responsibility to ask them on the Day of
Resurrection - and especially in light of my suffering from moping and
severe sleep disorder and who did not advise me medicine in treatment -? If
the answer is to live with me, what is the strategy that should be
followed in dealing with children Msmmin outrageous ideas against me,
and accustomed to life a bit different, especially with the current
wife) and that does not count too much)? .4 - Are boys briefed on the details of the case?
Finally,
I ask that you please forgive me stretching with that there are a lot
of details that I have not mentioned, but "if the right holder an
article," and I hope that had problems of this special attention from
Dnkm. And prayers and peace on the best prophets and Almrsilyen, and Praise be to God who does not praise is disliked.
In the name of God the MercifulBrother Fadil / Abu Hani, may God protect him.Peace be upon you and God's mercy and blessings be upon you:
'll
Wadlow my pitch - God willing - from a psychological perspective, and
the other brothers will specialists - God willing - also by making their
opinion.
Of
course what I'm saying is within the limits of possibility humans, it
may be true and may be a mistake, and what really Srdth very clear, but
certainly is incomplete, and any processor specialist fair must listen
to the other party, and perhaps there is a need to listen to others
involved in the dumb, but During
what is available, I can tell you that the positive thing about the
problem in between you it has ended in divorce, this, my brother Karim
From my perspective (((((gate - the sight of God - to enter through))))
as long as the marital life has become not intolerable,
so let the problem solved to a large degree, and remained a problem
boys, do not underestimate them at all, but I want you (the fact) that
deal with this matter from a slightly different angle.
First:
I am convinced that the mothers of Ikmn formulation and show some
intransigence and drop anger at ex-husband by treating boys, this kind
of revenge unacceptable, but it happens in real life, there may be
something, but this does not negate the fact as
the mother, and she loves her children, and I would like to remind you,
and always refer to this fact, and remind yourself, it (the fact)
bright spot, and will reduce every Zlamyat and negatives and the
hardship faced by the former spouse.
Your brother Karim: see the positive outlook of the Nook as a mother.
Second:
some endurance and sacrifice on your part - my brother Karim - continue
with your children, do not mention them their mother humans never,
quite the contrary mention good, and this is what recommended by the
Koran words of Almighty God: {And do not forget the credit you}, I
remember well within reason before Ibnaúkma, and this will build positive impressions in children.
Child
after the age of six and seventh remember, and while bringing to the
stage Alevaah will have estimated total to rule on matters
independently, will never forget the children of your good against their
mother, will never Insoha, whatever ship them now and whatever she said
all this will fall completely to acquire these children -
God save them - cognitive abilities which must start from now, when
they reach the age discrimination can be real to judge things.
Your
brother Karim: not exchange your spouse the same their approach Hyalk
the building negative impressions about you in the eyes of the children,
nor able to abuse Ttrahqan each, and do not forget the credit you.
So
let summarize you command that problem solved and ended in divorce,
Secondly: as the mother, Third: Try to send messages of positive to your
children about their mother, this is what I see, I do not see ever you
are in any case to treat antidepressant, I know you have something of
indigestion mood,
have Ajtrarat to memories may not be pretty, but all of this - my
brother Karim - is past experience has ended, and my son on the present,
not to disturb yourself than have negative consequences on your second
marriage.
Loya
brother Karim: people change and change, and this is the law of God in
the universe, see the things more positive, and this is what I see and I
would recommend it, but God willing the fraternity elders guide you
about other steps that can be carried out, and remind him you is in the
range of advising and consultation, and no more than that.
God bless you, and good God, and God to help and guide.
+ + + + + + + + + + + + + + + +Ended answer d. Mohammed
Abdul Aleem Senior Consultant Psychiatry and Addiction Medicine,
followed by an answer Sheikh Ahmed Alfodei Advisor family and
educational affairs.+ + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + +
The
newest your beloved brother in Web Consulting Islam, thank you for your
interest in Bibnaúk, and you are concerned about your upbringing valid,
and we ask God Almighty names and attributes to make it easy for you
intended, and that the eye recognizes your children.
No
doubt Beloved (first) that what Allaah decrees and spent for humans is
good, but did not realize the human side goodness it, we often love
things and take care them and where the scourge, and a group of things
and نكرهها and where goodness, has God said: { and
it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you
love a thing which is bad for you and God knows and you know not}, and
your perception of this fact - Beloved - and remind them is the first
thing displace you fuss and expels you of this concern, the faith in God
Almighty and worth and that good is the minimum urgent.
Should
always remember - Beloved - that this decree is in God to your
children, and of them, and that your Vrack wife appreciated the previous
God, and that, although it appeared evil but a lot of good you may not
be aware of.
As
to the boys - Beloved - should be fully aware that they have reached
the age where they can distinguish between what will benefit them and
hurt them, and recognize also among loves and hates them, and then do
not recommend never Balachtgal or thinking about how to remove this
image from their minds or those ,
but should be interested in providing beneficial to them and help them
to live a stable life as much as possible, and they will understand you
this, and realize your love for them and your eagerness to them through
your actions with them, provide interest on what you want you and
wishes, the was in their interest to stay with their mother - This
is without doubt a great interest to them in many ways - If the
interest in staying with their mother realized, in the sense that they
obtain their luck from religious education Faamron perform rituals and
prayers, and check them demands and desires, you should leave them with
their mother, and encourages them to live with a stable life ,
and also helpful for Dr. Mohammed - Parts of God better - should
remember them well, they if they hear you praise her and mentioned well,
and ordered boys Btaatha, and righteousness, and to hear her words,
this will happen in them love you, and will respond for themselves many
of the words that Maybe
they receive from their mother, and perhaps Sarahoha unlike what you
say, this method undoubtedly would have a positive impact on children.
If
children do not obtain their luck of Education at their mother so as
not commanded moralists, and do not return to perform acts of worship,
nor Egnbon falling into irregularities legitimacy, it is their interest
in this case requires undoubtedly Houdantek you to them, and in this
case should be kindly their
so far as possible, and you right-holder in the nursery as long as the
mother has been married, you should be courted them and Tthbb them as
much as possible, even if that is divided times between you and their
mother, فيبقون you some hours or some days, there is nothing wrong that
visit their mother and remain then days or hours,
you are keen within the time they spend with you to instill the virtues
and teaching them to worship, and so on until they grow up.
In
wholesale - Beloved - the sons undoubtedly Semezon, and if خيروا they
would choose love commands them to stay with you or with their mother,
but that was to stay with their mother Tafrita in their upbringing
should make you the best of what you have in the way makes them willing
and Thabibhm to stay with you ,
even for some times, and should, however, be assisted Balakla of your
family and the people or these boys, so everyone will cooperate to
provide a good life for these children and help them to live a stable
life realized where their interests and benefits, and this required
undoubtedly meet him hearts, and keen to do the family members all,
it showed you the sake of revenge from Tliqtk or order to disarm the
boys, if they relatives to do so, they will do what they can to إعانتك.
We ask Allah to bless you with good, and to fit your children, He is the Most Generous.